So I'm reading this book- "Moms to Moms: Parenting Wisdom from Moms in Recovery." Who knew it would actually be a good read? I expected to pick it up at the bookstore, sit with it for as long as it took to drink my strongly caffeinated beverage, and leave it for the next person in search of enlightenment. But I identified with so many of what these moms were saying, I just couldn't leave it behind.
I should start at the beginning. I'm Sarah, and I'm an alcoholic and an addict. I knew this before I picked up this book, but still, seeing the words there in black and white is still a little jarring. Saying them has become easier and easier for me. I go to a lot of AA and NA meetings (and I talk a lot, so I say them pretty regularly). It was hard to say at first. As of right now I have a little over two months of clean and sober time. I've tried going through different "A" programs before, but this is my first really true HONEST attempt at it. I have a sponsor. One I talk to on a regular basis. I have people's phone numbers- and I talk to them. Often. I go to several meetings a week. I'm not doing "90 in 90" but I'm coming pretty damn close. I pry myself out of my loner shell and do the "eyeball-to-eyeball sharing" before and after meetings. It's hard, but I do it. I have a copy of the Big Book (and I've been instructed NOT to sell it on eBay like the last one) and I actually read it instead of just use it for show. It has dog-eared pages and stuff is underlined. I pray. I pray more now and more seriously than I ever have before in my entire life. And here's the biggest hurdle of all-
I don't use alcohol or drugs.
Shocking, I know.
My first few times in different "A" programs, I thought I could use in safety. I made excuses. I needed to use. I could use certain drugs, in certain amounts. I wasn't as bad as the next guy. I had a medical condition. My excuses were endless. I had to really hit bottom (a story for another time) for me to give it all up. And I really have- given it all up, that is. The first few weeks were unbelievably hard. Anxiety through the roof, shaking, mood swings- twenty-four hours at a time was too much. I went hour to hour, minute to minute. I went to meetings, called people in the program, relied on support. It was insane, but I got through without using.
Now I'm a little over two months clean and sober, and the world is an amazing place. Don't get me wrong, life isn't always roses and lollipops, but I'm definitely feeling that pink cloud that people talk about. I'm working the steps, and I feel God's presence. It's an amazing gift. I was at a meeting tonight where a speaker described it like being in the Wizard of Oz... you spend so long in the world of black and white, then all of a sudden you open the door and boom! You're in color! It's an amazing feeling.
So anyway, back to my book- "Moms to Moms..." it's compiled by Barbara Joy, and I highly recommend it. One thing I really like about the book is the ability to participate in it yourself, hence the birth of this blog. I will be posting the "journaling questions" on here with my thoughts, and I encourage you to post your thoughts and comments.
Thanks for reading!